In the military there is a tradition: the greeting of the day. Good morning/afternoon/evening sir/ma’am/sergeant. It’s so ingrained that people will stop you if you do not offer it. Lowest rank initiates toward the highest ranking person. This is something I’ve carried with me in civilian life, albeit less formally. Military etiquette and protocol is fascinating and I am equally obsessed.
Ladies first, open doors, hold them open, say thank you, say please, walk in a straight line ffs, eat with your mouth closed, don’t pick your nose, cut your finger nails or at least clean them and the list goes on…..
in general, think about how your etiquette rules could affect someone with a disability and be willing to be flexible occasionally. the ultimate purpose of etiquette is to make sure no one is ashamed, embarrassed or made deeply uncomfortable. sometimes being gracious takes precedent.
On an airplane, middle seat person gets both arm rests. Apparently I am in the minority on this but it’s how I feel!
on public transit, offer your seat to a pregnant person or the elderly. even if they don't want it. it's about respect. i was appalled by how many pregnant women were forced to stand on BART so that some tech dudes could sit there and work on their laptops.
In the military there is a tradition: the greeting of the day. Good morning/afternoon/evening sir/ma’am/sergeant. It’s so ingrained that people will stop you if you do not offer it. Lowest rank initiates toward the highest ranking person. This is something I’ve carried with me in civilian life, albeit less formally. Military etiquette and protocol is fascinating and I am equally obsessed.
Agreed! It feels like something we’re simply supposed to do, and I think it was part of common vernacular until somewhat recent history.
Ladies first, open doors, hold them open, say thank you, say please, walk in a straight line ffs, eat with your mouth closed, don’t pick your nose, cut your finger nails or at least clean them and the list goes on…..
If I were a dictator…
My etiquette rules are:
in general, think about how your etiquette rules could affect someone with a disability and be willing to be flexible occasionally. the ultimate purpose of etiquette is to make sure no one is ashamed, embarrassed or made deeply uncomfortable. sometimes being gracious takes precedent.
On an airplane, middle seat person gets both arm rests. Apparently I am in the minority on this but it’s how I feel!
on public transit, offer your seat to a pregnant person or the elderly. even if they don't want it. it's about respect. i was appalled by how many pregnant women were forced to stand on BART so that some tech dudes could sit there and work on their laptops.
Yes! Respect, self-awareness, and awareness of others.